“Compassion bears the pain of the past.  It does no longer try to accuse, to suppress, to condemn, to refuse.  It allows memories to uncover the origins of shame and hurt.  Such memories will bring deep sorrow.  But it is through sorrow and grief that we will set each other free from the chains of past wrongs so that we may freely move toward a new future together.”  –Geiko Muller Fahrenholz  (1989)